Parenting is a unique challenge for every mom and dad, and a unique situation with each child. Boys and girls need different information as they grow -- about risk, and about personal defense.

The first two issues for parents involve accurately recognizing risk, and rejecting the alarmism which encourages extreme measures and extreme anxiety.

What's the Risk for my Child?

Risks of assault for children and teens are higher than they are for adults. Look to this page for up-coming risk assessments for developmental groups:  young children under age 6; children age 7-11; youth age 12-17, and teens and young adults age 18 - 24.

These are the age-group breakdowns where developmental capacities and predator preferences contribute to changes in vulnerability for minors and young adults.

What are a parent's best choices regarding protection of children and youth?

Child and youth safety is a developing field. Unwanted sexual attention (USA) for girls is very high¹, and anti-violence programs and anti-bullying programs are prevalent in our schools. Yet, very few are documented as to their effectiveness. Current research in the fields of child developent, psychology and parenting, criminal justice, and conflict resolution are showing several elements that contribute to reducing risk.

Primary risk reduction factors include parenting skills such as effective discipline and boundary-setting, and open lines of communication in a family. Another protective factor is having a good network of trusted elders. Clearly, the technology age and other social factors contribute to the challenge of raising safe and healthy children in today's world.

Recommended for Parents:

• Increased Resources and Knowledge: Understanding sexual violence risks; recognizing the cycle of violence and how bullying contributes to victim/abuser roles
• Understanding Developmental Safety Skills: especially two elements of personal safety training, conflict resolution and boundary skills
• Finding Community Resources: skill building for kids, educational and support services for families
• Opening Family Discussions: developmentally-appropriate topics convey accurate information and encourage open lines of communication when conflicts develop

Keep in touch with MLS -- more articles and resources to come.