Manipulation
The effect of one's presence on another person; to be is to manipulate. Accountability implies using manipulation honestly as a skill to improve communication, rather than unconsciously or with a dishonest agenda. Although manipulation is generally considered a negative trait or activity, in self defense training it is understood as an inherent trait of human presence.
Madonna/Whore Polarity
Referring to social training to perceive women according to two basic stereotypes. The Madonna represents the good girl--a moral, on-a-pedestal, motherly type of women who deserves respect. The Whore represents the bad girl--sexually available and irresponsible, immoral, deserving of abuse.
Martyr
A person who acts out a dysfunctional pattern of behavior in which one sacrifices personal Choices, Needs, etc., to the needs of others. The martyr personality gives her or himself a lot of credit for their self-sacrifice, but usually has a hidden-agenda where they consider others as overly-dependent and expect future returns for their sacrifice.
Matching Theory
A personal safety strategy. A defender matches by responding appropriately in an interaction according to the level of energy expressed by the instigator. Matching Theory also includes the tactics of Underwhelm and Overwhelm. Matching as a strategy can be verbal, non-verbal, or physical.
Message
- General communication sent or received, a total sum of all verbal and non-verbal components of Expression.
- Information sent individually by one component of Expression.
Misogyny
Hatred of women. (There's a word for hatred of men but it's so obscure that I can’t remember what it is to include it.)
Minimum Tension
See Passive Resistance.
Militarism
Glorification of the principles characteristic of armies, soldiers, and warfare.